7 Lovemaking Mistakes
That Couples Make and How To Avoid Them
Did you know that people
who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling?
It’s true.
Over the years, I’ve seen
couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their
love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.
Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?
Mistake #1: Feeling
scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things
Have you ever had an idea
to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think?
Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something
new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it
up as you are.
And you don’t need to introduce
whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways
to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and
that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.
Mistake #2: Trying
to convince the partner to make love
If your lover is tired
or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex
almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their
body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical
is what gives you the energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the
right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.
Ladies: Want
to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 –
10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the
day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like
that.
Lads:
Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking
in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal,
too. And give some attention to her neck––it will drive her wild.
But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual
kisses.
Mistake #3: Neglecting
foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner
People in a relationship
(especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse
sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?
That’s right. If you kiss,
caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.
So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your
partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)
If you find something that
they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The
more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more
intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten
this anticipation, too.
Mistake #4: Using
toys or porn to make your lovemaking better
When sex hits a rough patch,
many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating
thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.
Wrong!… While toys
can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them
can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make
lovemaking even less fulfilling.
Why? Because you don’t
want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure
more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first
fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing
other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.
Mistake #5: Trying
to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse
Men often feel “unmanly”
if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand
is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.
Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need
to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should
master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).
Mistake #6: Trying
to “finish” at the same time
Simultaneous orgasms are
quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus
completely on the woman’s needs first. Hold off from the positions you
find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable
for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater
chance of both climaxing.
Mistake #7: Sticking
to a “set routine” too often
You know the drill. You
take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes,
the routine is over. Sound familiar?
No matter how fantastic
lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years.
And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But
the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect
your relationship.
The BEST WAY to protect
your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of
new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.
That’s the secret.
In fact, when you have
an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot,
steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love
and even make love more often.
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April 10, 2008
10 Ways To Rekindle The
Magic In Your Relationship
Are you frustrated that
your relationship doesn’t have the magic and romance that it once had?
You’re not alone. Living
with the same partner for a long time can become stable and comfortable, and,
as a result, can also cause the loss of the spark that made your relationship
so special in the first place. Here are some simple, fun and creative ideas
to reignite that magic:
1. Send them a
unique gift at work – Get
a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childlike picture with a smiley
sun and two stick figures holding hands. Add labels with your two names pointing
to the stick figures. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal
envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your
partner’s workplace, such as: “For the immediate and urgent attention of: Rebecca
Jones, Level 20, Collins & Smith Solicitors, New York.” Mail it to your partner
so they receive it in the middle of a busy day.
2. Become kids
again – If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give your
partner a ride. This will often bring back happy memories from their childhood.
3. Fun with water
- On a hot summer’s day, buy two large water pistols and take them
to the beach with you. Pull them out and throw one to your partner and then
have a huge water fight.
4. A massage with
a twist – Buy a small, decorated cardboard box, a sheet of colored
tissue paper, some massage oil and a blank card. Line the box with the tissue
paper. Place the massage oil in the box and write the following message on the
card: I know a great masseur. For an appointment call: (Your Phone Number)
5. Bring back childhood
memories – Contact your partner’s family and ask if there was anything
she always wanted when she was a little girl. For example if she always wanted
a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the
gift, but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she
always wanted. You can do this for your man too.
6. Stare at the
clouds – Drive into the country, find a grassy hill, and lie with your
partner and look up at the clouds.
7. Go for a walk
on the beach – Trace out the shape of a large love heart in the sand.
Sit inside the heart and cuddle your partner as you watch the sun go down.
8. Organize a backyard
picnic on a warm summer’s night – Spread
a picnic blanket on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and
champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars
together.
9. Show you’re
grateful for your partner – Leave
a long-stem rose where your partner will find it, with a note on it saying:
“Thank you for coming into my life.”
10. Spice up your
lovemaking – Probably the most profound way to rekindle the romance
in your relationship is to spice up your lovemaking. Surprise your partner with
a little gift after you make love, try a new position, learn to give your partner
a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each
other’s eyes and caressing their bare skin before making love.
Many people underestimate
the affect passionate and intimate lovemaking has on a relationship. If you
spice it up, chances are you and your partner will naturally do romantic things
for each other. Why? Because passionate lovemaking connects two people in a
meaningful and unexplainable way that nothing else can.
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